With time our thoughts become our beliefs. Naturally this is a good thing if our beliefs serve us in a positive way, like for example to believe that you are a healthy stabile person or that you are talented for your work. But when our beliefs are based on negative thoughts, which in no way serve us not now nor in the future, those thoughts become dangerous.
1. HE/SHE WILL CHANGE
Nobody can fix or change anyone. The best thing you can do is love them and give a well-intention advice to your closest. But in no way, you can impose a certain type of behavior and thinking.
The same rule applies even when it’s about the relations between you and your partner, for example the commitment of the partner towards you, their personal debts, even their diet. Only when you accept the people for who they are, without trying to change them, will you be truly free.
2. SOME DAY, I WILL…
Although you may not realize it, this type of promise ends up most often as a big fraud. “Someday I will travel the world”, “I will write a novel”, “I will start my own business”. Most often these promises end up someday when you wake up and realize that time has passed and you don’t have enough time to see them through. Nobody knows their days on this Earth. So start working on your wishes from today. Present is the only sure thing we have, maybe that’s why it’s called present.
3. IF I HAD MORE TIME I WOULD HAVE…
We all want to blame time as a cause we didn’t do many things – exercise, meditation, reading a book. How about 20 minutes of yoga in the morning? Or simply close your eyes and listen to meditation music or a selected playlist on a bus to work? And another idea makes it a habit to have a book in your bag, and any chance you have a moment read a few pages. If you really wish to do something you will find the time.
4. IF I HAD THAT…, EVERYTHING WOULD BE BETTER
Truth is if you aren’t happy now there is a small chance that you’ll be happy when you get the “big score” – whether it’s your love life, increase of your paycheck or having a perfect body. Remember, many of the things you have now were once things you wished for. There isn’t some “magical thing” that when you get it you’ll be happy. The greatest magic is gratitude. It makes you feel better and enjoy in what you already have.
5. I DON’T HAVE A CHOICE
Even though it may not seem like it but there is always a choice. No matter if you have a problem moving in into a new flat, getting a new job, getting out of a bad relationship, there is always a way. The key is to start with a positive thought, not with a negative one such as: “I don’t have the time, nor the resources and I don’t know where to start”! if you be a little more persistent and put in some time and effort, you will likely achieve what you want with time.
However, lots of people pick the easy choice- be the victim. They would sooner give up on their dreams then working on them to make them real. Although it may seem like a safer thing because there isn’t a risk of failure, it still isn’t so. This way of thinking only makes the matter worse with time.
6. I AM NOT READY FOR IT…
Sometimes people feel they are not fully up for the new unknown things in life – parenthood, entrepreneurship, changes. It’s simple, they happen and all we have to do is accept them and start learning how to deal with them. That way, in time we become ready. When you say you aren’t ready for something, most likely you either have no interest in it or you are trying to postpone it, which most often is a result from a sense of fear.
7. I AM NOT GOOD ENOUGH
This is the biggest lie of all. Remember, you are good enough! You shouldn’t do something spectacular to deserve a fulfilling and happy life. There is a difference between thinking that you deserve to be happy and the attitude that you are worthy of being happy. Being happy is your born right since the day you came into this world.